Is It My Fault?
Is It My Fault?: Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence
by Lindsey A. Holcomb and Justin S. Holcomb
Is It My Fault?
is a message of hope and healing to victims who know too well the depths of
destruction and the overwhelming reality of domestic violence.
At least one in every three women have been beaten, coerced into sex, or abused in their lifetime.
The effects of domestic violence are physical, social, emotional, psychological, and spiritual, and
can have long-lasting distressing consequences. It is common for victims of domestic violence to
suffer from ongoing depression and recurring nightmares, self-harm, panic attacks, substance abuse,
Is It My Fault?
addresses the abysmal issue of domestic violence with the powerful and
transforming biblical message of grace and redemption. It deals with this devastating problem and
sin honestly and directly without hiding its prevalence today.
"This book is a tour de force of wisdom, goodness, and compassion for those who know the agony and
shame of domestic violence and for every leader who interacts with more than four families in a
year. One out of every four homes in America will experience domestic abuse and it is no different
in the church than in the so-called secular world. In fact, conservative Christians are more likely
to remain in violence and think it is biblical. This treasure of a book invites the reader into a
sweeping and life giving understanding of the Bible's view of women, violence, suffering, and
redemption that if embraced would radically alter how victims and care givers address this
heartache. This is a must-read book."
Dan B. Allender
, Professor of Counseling Psychology and founding president of
the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology
"Specific, tender, concrete, compassionate, bold, understanding, wise, and dyed with the gorgeous
gospel of grace that is ours in Christ Jesus. I love this book! It unpacks the experience of the
victim without ever feeling coldly analytical. It gives you important things to consider and clear
steps to take without ever pushing you. Read it and you'll feel loved, understood, and helped, but
best of all you'll rest in the love of Jesus more than you have before."
, President of Paul Tripp Ministries; executive director of the
Center for Pastoral Life and Care in Fort Worth, Texas; and author of A Shelter in the Time of
Storm: Meditations on God and Trouble
"Domestic abuse is an area where sincere but uninformed 'help' can hurt. Unfortunately, even the
misuse of Scripture, often by well-meaning Christians, can become part of the problem. Justin and
Lindsey serve the church well by defining what abuse is, what Scripture says, how victims should
respond, and how pastor-counselors can be effectively involved. This is a must-read for pastors,
victims, and friends of victims. This issue is too prevalent and devastating to be ignored. The
blind eye of the church hurts those without a voice. Read this book and become equipped to
effectively care for those whose cry is reaching the ear of God and are waiting for a hand from the
body of Christ."
, Pastor of counseling at The Summit Church (Durham, NC) and
author of Self-Centered Spouse: Help for Chronically Broken Marriages
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Meet the Author
is an Episcopal priest and a professor of theology and Christian
thought at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and Reformed Theological Seminary. He previously
taught at the University of Virginia and Emory University. Justin holds an M.A. in Theological
Studies and an M.A. in Christian Thought from Reformed Theological Seminary and a Ph.D. from Emory
University. He serves on the boards for REST (Real Escape from the Sex Trade) and GRACE (Godly
Response to Abuse in Christian Environments).
counsels victims of sexual assault and domestic violence.
Previously, she worked at a sexual assault crisis center and also served as a case manager at a
domestic violence shelter. Lindsey provided crisis intervention to victims of sexual assault and
domestic violence and conducted a variety of training seminars to service providers. She earned a
Master in Public Health with a focus on violence against women and was a co-founder of REST (Real
Escape from the Sex Trade).
Table of Contents
Part 1: What is Domestic Violence?
- Deliver Us from Evil
- Am I in an Abusive Relationship?
- Why Does He Choose to Abuse?
- What Is Domestic Violence?
- What Are the Effects of Domestic Violence?
Part 2: Women, Domestic Violence, and the Bible
- Does the Grace of God Apply to Me?
- What Does the Bible Say about Women?
- What Does the Bible Say about Violence against Women?
- What Does the Bible Say about God Delivering Victims?
- Does the Bible Say I Should Suffer Abuse and Violence?
Part 3: Reflections of Psalms
- You Save Me from Violence: Psalm 18
- Will God Remain Faithful?: Psalm 22
- But I Will Trust in You: Psalm 55